Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Need help trying to convince parents-changing moods?

hi all, can someone hep me?

ok i'm in yr 12 and i am at the stage of having to decide what i want 2 do 4 the rest of my life (i live in aus). at one stage it was teaching, then customs, but i have finally resided myself to the fact i wish to pursue a career in nursing and then move into the army and complete my course there.

however both my parents are unhappy with this decision and always try and get me to see the bad points in it and have really pushed me to do teaching they think i am just in a phase (which i am not)

my parents both are the type to change their minds very quickly e.g one minute they are in support of me the next minute they're not

how can i gain their support and really tell them this is what i want to do? not rudely as they take these things very seriosly

thanks 4 all the help in advance

thanks katieNeed help trying to convince parents-changing moods?
Nursing is a wonderful field, I too wanted to become a nurse at your age (Im 24 now). The fact of the matter is is that what you decide to do in your life should be up to you, not your parents. I mean, your the one that is going to be doing the work getting thru school and doing the work in the army, not your folks.

There are 'bad point's' in every career, not just nursing, and if nursing is something you really want to do, then your not going to see the so called bad points in it, you may see them as being new and exciting challenges.

Honestly, your parents sound like my mom, she always sees the negative things to new ideas I have as opposed to the positive ones. Are you closer to one of parents? If so, maybe you could talk to them in private and tell them one-on-one how you feel and maybe they could talk to the other one. I didn't have that advantage, my dad wasn't around.

Just let them know that your standing your ground, and try pointing out the positives in nursing, there are TONS of things nurses can be proud of and advantages and opportunities nurses have, you will never be out of a job when you have your nursing license.

Oh yeah, and point out that just because you want to go to the army NOW doesn't mean that you HAVE to stay there your whole life. With your RN license, you can work in a variety of places. If you want to go to the army now, that's cool, go for it, but with that license, your free to work wherever you choose if you want to do something else later on.Need help trying to convince parents-changing moods?
I'm in year 11 and I know how you're feeling, but I WANT to do teaching. I think you just really need to make it clear to your parents that that is the career path YOU want to follow, it's your choice, not theirs.

Good luck! :)
Sit down and tell them how you feel. Say, 'Mom, dad, I love you both but please respect my dream.'. It IS what you want, right? Think about it. Dig deep into your heart and you will find what you wanna say.
What i think is that you will have to take your parents in confidence,

you sit with them and discuss why do you want to go in nursing.Try to know

reasons why they want to avoid you to go in nursing and satisfy them

with valid answer.Talk with them politely i am sure they will be agree
do what makes you happy i don't think your parents are gonna be there when your 35 and sittin in a tiny apartment by yourself because you just picked what they wanted and didn't look what makes the most money whats gonna make you the happiest what gonna help you raise a family some day

OH! please D: good people! teach me how to move on u.u?

HI..! the thing is that I'm in love with a guy i've been dating now%26amp;5months ago. I want to move on(: because I know things are not ever gonna change. He might love me, but he has a BIG PROBLEM. HE IS BIPOLAR D: so he changes mood%26amp;feelings every time!! %26amp;I CAN'T STAND THAT!

I can tell that I suffer A LOT for that, because now he is ';dating'; a friend of mine! that's really low, I GUESS,! %26amp;it hurts a lot!%26amp; he knows that卢卢 it seems that he feels better by making me suffer idk D:OH! please D: good people! teach me how to move on u.u?
Sooo if a guy is so pathetic that he'd actually date a person just to 'torment' YOU, then why would you want him? Aren't you above that..?

He doesn't sound worth the pain, %26amp;%26amp; your moods do not match, so I think you start with reminding yourself that %26amp;%26amp; also it would not work out because of this.

So no reason to be hurt.

Also it wouldn't hurt to start ignoring the guy. The cooler you act, the more bother'd they get.

';Don't ever let 'em see you sweat'; %26lt;%26lt;%26lt;%26lt;%26lt;%26lt;%26lt;%26lt; Take it to heart. %26lt;3OH! please D: good people! teach me how to move on u.u?
If you are in love with him, the his bipolar shouldn't get in the way of the relationship.

If he is 'dating' one of your friends, move on and date a new guy.

If you are suffering you are not in love and you deserve not to suffer.

Break if off with him if it seems right,

Slowly stop talking to him as much and start going out more.

Moving on is easier than it seems
You are young, believe me you don't want a guy in your life with that type of behavior. Thank your lucky stars that he is dating someone else. When you mature, you will totally understand.

What is the name of this song?

y see, if you have one, or a chance to

In order to seize everything you ever thought for a while

You grab it, or let slip?


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There is vomit on his sweater already, Mom noodles

His temper, but on the surface to remain calm and ready to

To drop bombs, but he has forgotten

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This is a case of choking, is now flirting

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Back to reality, oh, think of gravity

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It may even insanity, but would not give up

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He would not be, he knows all the ropes again in the

It does not matter, they will stay away from drugs

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Returned to the laboratory 眉

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His best to seize this moment, I hope he does not pass the


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I did, you would not get better in the past

You can not see one, do not miss the opportunity to crack down on no

This is an opportunity of a lifetime 眉)

This spirit is the escape through the hole is a sin

The world is my wish

Let me king, we are moving in one direction, a new world order

A normal life too boring, but the star of a document review body after death

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It is a time for us all these hoes is all he

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Lonely road, and only God knows

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He will return to his home, his daughter does not even know

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How does he not open, he is a product of the Cold War

Move to the next one which flows Schmoe

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Even the soap, he and implement

But I think this is an old custom, but in order to win, and then

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I did, you would not get better in the past

You can not see one, do not miss the opportunity to crack down on no

This is an opportunity of a lifetime 眉)

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This tearing of the ************* roof off like two dogs in a cage

I was playing the beginning, everything changed mood

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Some people think that a better lip

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In fact, I get it with my colleagues, 9

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And it is not the movie, there's no Mekhi Phifer, this is my life

These difficult times, and thus more difficult to

Try to feed and water my seed, in addition to

Teeter tottering between a father and catching an opera singer, the first one

Mama Drama and screaming children and

There is much I want to

To stay in one place, the monotony of the day

Allow me this, I would like turtles

I had to develop a plot or go to jail or shot to death

Success is my only ************* option, failure is not

Mamma, I love you, but the trailer to go

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So I am here I will shoot.

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(You better lose yourself in the music, the current

I did, you would not get better in the past

You can not see one, do not miss the opportunity to crack down on no

This is an opportunity of a lifetime 眉)

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its called lose yourself by eminem the lyrics are almost right =) here they are

Look, if you had, one shot, or one opportunity

To seize everything you ever wanted-One moment

Would you capture it, or just let it slip?

Yo, His palms are sweaty, knees weak, arms are heavy

There's vomit on his sweater already, mom's spaghetti

He's nervous, but on the surface he looks calm and ready

To drop bombs, but he keeps on forgetting

What he wrote down, the whole crowd goes so loud

He opens his mouth, but the words won't come out

He's chokin, how everybody's jokin now

The clock's run out, time's up, over bloah

Snap back to reality, Oh there goes gravity

Oh, there goes rabbit, he choked

He's so mad, but he won't give up that

No, he won't have it , he knows his whole back city ropes

It don't matter, he's dope

He knows that, but he's broke

He's so stacked that he knows

When he goes back to his mobile home, that's when it's

Back to the lab again yo

This whole rap s**t

Better go capture this moment and hope it don't pass him


You better lose yourself in the music, the moment

You own it, you better never let it go

You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow

This opportunity comes once in a lifetime yo,

You better lose yourself in the music, the moment

You own it, you better never let it go

You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow

This opportunity comes once in a lifetime you better,

His soul's escaping, through this hole that is gaping

This world is mine for the taking

Make me king, as we move toward a, new world order

A normal life is borin, but superstardom's close to post mortom

It only grows harder, only grows hotter

He blows us all over these hoes is all on him

Coast to coast shows, he's know as the globetrotter

Lonely roads, God only knows

He's grown farther from home, he's no father

He goes home and barely knows his own daughter

But hold your nose cause here goes the cold water

These ho's don't want him no mo, he's cold product

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He nose dove and sold nada

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You better lose yourself in the music, the moment

You own it, you better never let it go-o

You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow

This opportunity comes once in a lifetime yo

You better lose yourself in the music, the moment

You own it, you better never let it go

You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow

This opportunity comes once in a lifetime yo, you better

No more games, I'ma change what you call rage

Tear this m*********n roof off like 2 dogs caged

I was playin in the beginnin, the mood all changed

I been chewed up and spit out and booed off stage

But I kept rhymin and stepwritin the next cypher

Best believe somebody's payin the pied piper

All the pain inside amplified by the fact

That I can't get by with my 9 to 5

And I can't provide the right type of life for my family

Cause man, these g****m food stamps don't buy diapers

And it's no movie, there's no Makai Pheiffer, this is my life

And these times are so hard and it's getting even harder

Tryin to feed and water my seed, plus

Teeter-totter caught up between bein a father and a pre-madonna

Baby mama drama's screamin on and

Too much for me to wanna

Stay in one spot, another day of monotony

Has gotten me to the point, I'm like a snail

I've got to formulate a plot or I end up in jail or shot

Success is my only m*********n option, failure's not

Mom, I love you, but this trailer's got to go

I cannot grow old in Salem's lot

So here I go is my shot.

Feet fail me not this may be the only opportunity that I got


You better lose yourself in the music, the moment

You own it, you better never let it go

You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow

This opportunity comes once in a lifetime yo

You better lose yourself in the music, the moment

You own it, you better never let it go

You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow

This opportunity comes once in a lifetime you better,

You can do anything you set your mind to, man

My sister is very hateful?

How should I deal with it? My sister is older than me, yet she acts like a child. If something doesn't go her way, she will take it out on me in a heratbeat. She is only happy when good things happen for her. She expects to be treated like a queen, yet she treats me like dirt. The saying ';treat others the way you want to be treated'; means NOTHING to her. She will say really hurtful things to me and doesn't even care. and she never apologizes. It has been like this for my entire life. I have no idea what i should do. I am so tired of it. Everything depends on her ever changing mood. If she is happy everything will be nice and fun. But the second something upsets her, it's like night and day. She will completely change into a mean, nasty, hateful person. I really can't stand it anymore. What should I do???My sister is very hateful?
If it were me then i would totally ignore her and her antics . not everything revolves around her and she needs to know it . are you sure she is the older of the 2 of ya ? she may be older but it sounds like your the mature one . tell her to quit acting like a baby and leave it at that . she will get Pretty lonely after a while .My sister is very hateful?
Treat her the same way then she will really know how bad it has been making you feel... Try it.
im the oldest sister.. and i used to be just like that.

Till oneday i was having alot of problems with friends and stuff and i realised how much i need my sisters.

Everythings better with friends and all that but me and my sister still hang out heaps (were 2yrs apart)

It wont be like that forever. When she grows up a little and realises its not all her things will change

talk to your sister about it and tell her how you feel. if that does not work then take it to your parents. you do not deserve that.
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  • 16 and i have boarderline personality

    I was diagnosed to have (BPD) , ever since i was younger i felt somewhat disconnected from my family and sometimes even friends. It's been pretty rough and i dont except to explain my whole life story over yahoo! Answers but i really need some advice..please. I'm 16 years old and I now live with my dad, but I used to live and be very close with my moms side, which whom I've grown up on, I don't really talk much to them anymore since I didn't go by what my grandmother and aunt wanted me to do which was go to a residential place that would ';help'; m, but my mom and dad (who hasnt really been in my life much except for now) though would **** me up even more. I'm ALOT happier now living with my dad and step mom and i have the best boyfriend ever that i really fell sooo much in love with.. -but for me, Idk why, its just really hard at the same time because hes the first person I've ever really cared for and loved in my life and I always feel bored, I'm not depressed, and ive never been sexually abused, but when i am bored i start to think crazy thoughts that obviously would never happen, but when i get in that mood I get jealous and I get mad but then I change moods really quick but I'm not Bipolar? I read up on BPD, and i do have all the symptoms but then i read that its hard to keep relationships with someone who has this disorder...I don't wanna lose anyone ealse in my life and I DONT wanna lose my boyfriend, its the worst fear I've ever had!

    Please help, I really sometimes get nervous and think ';wow how am I gonna make it ?';

    Please help me out and give me advice.

    Thank you!16 and i have boarderline personality
    I would not trust a diagnosis of BPD under the age of 18 - usually it is incorrect %26amp; is not usually given as a diagnosis due to some of the criteria not being able to be adequately assessed until you are out of adolescence. Also residential care is not even an option for BPD - it is not seen as being even close to an effective treatment - being in a care facility is best left for times of crisis.

    A lot of people under the age of 18 show signs of BPD but is extremely rare for it to be a true case as usually at that age it is a risk of developing into it.16 and i have boarderline personality
    you're not supposed to be diagnosed with BPD if you're under 18....
    I have BPD and I can tell you that sometimes people just leave but I have seen people make it successfully with a boyfriend/spouse. I am no dr so I cant tell you if you have it or not but I can tell you that you might have it. If a lot of those diagnosis fits you I would guess you do but like I said Im no dr and cant tell you that. If there is DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy) in your area though I have seen a lot of people benefit from it. I am in it right now and I can gaurantee you that it has and is helping me.
    what is paramount is to choose your healing route------ carefully-- be really aware that the druggs/meds treatment for this can be damaging to you and go on for years with no improvement and massive damaging detrimental side effects to you from meds .

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    Now then .it costs millions of pounds to test and approve treatments because of the possible damage to people..

    Drug companies Fund most testing and will only and I mean only look at treatments, which show the promise of good deal of a profit, --they will actively dismiss any therapy which does not have profit potential?thus your doctor will only recommend therapies that have been tested with profit potential in them.

    Despite The fact that some of these other therapies mentioned here do have overwhelming benefits some, which have saved needless amputations, needless pain and trauma, and much loss of life.

    Drugs are not the answer for depression with mind altering damaging chemicals or any other mental illness.

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    1,get someone to massage your back and legs at least 3 times a week use peanut oil or a mix of 50-50 olive and peanut oil.

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    oh my gosh..i really don't think that label you've been assigned is in any way helpful.

    Have you ever spoken to a good trustworthy professional about this issue? i think it may help if they explained what it means to you in more simple terms without it provoking so much fear and anxiety.

    Sure you may find some things more difficult that others but don't condemn yourself as being incompetent or broken as a person.Everyone has struggles in one way or another. There are no 'perfect' people. Don't limit yourself or worry so much...try hard to work on whatever 'issues' you feel you may have,,try to open up to people you trust and don't lose hope. Relationships don't always come easy to people in general. Learn to be your own best friend.

    Communication is everything and try to express what's important to you. Practice it.

    As your only 16 you'll be going through alot of changes anyways so don't freak out if you have moods that you cant' explain. Focus on the positive. Believe in yourself...its the most important thing. You got to be on your own side and look after your own welfare.

    Try to get into good healthy habits as much as possible %26amp; keep away from negative influences like drugs, alcohol etc.

    God put you on this earth for a reason %26amp; he wants whats best for you %26amp; your happiness.

    Take care of yourself.

    Help with bipolar?

    im new to the whole bipolar thing, i dont know anything about it, but i know it must be a very hard thing to deal with and let me say that i am sorry to anyone that has this type of disorder, but i have a boyfriend who says that he is bipolar, yet he hasnt shown me any paperwork, but ive been looking up symptoms of it on the internet and they seem to be the same as his, but i want to know, how long does a person usually change moods for, is it usually for 2 or 3 days or what? cause he has been acting depressed and mad lately and has no emotion other times, plus the fact he said he's bi polar, he said he'll be better in a few days and be back to his old self, but how long do you usually stay in that mood?Help with bipolar?
    I think it's undetermined as to how long an episode lasts...Ya see, I too--have had a relationship with a guy that was bipolar...And it was soooo difficult--as he refused to take the medication that was prescribed for him! He would get angry at the drop of a hat, and I could never tell what type of mood he was going to be in...He managed his disorder with drugs %26amp; alcohol...instead of the medicine his doc prescribed...

    The mood swings are very erratic--as people with this disorder will feel like they are on cloud nine for a short period...and then will crash to a severe low point...Aside from that one bf, I've also had a couple friends with bipolar...My one friend said that she experiences more episodes of depression as opposed to her episodes of mania (highs). It's depends upon the individual--I suppose...And of course--whether or not they are taking meds for their condition...

    I'll tell ya--there's a great site out there, where you can gain knowledge %26amp; a better understanding of this type of issue...Check it out:…Help with bipolar?
    He's probably not bipolar...

    Men rarely get bipolar disorder.
    i had a gf that changed by the hour. She would call me screaming, then she would cry, and then apologize and ask if I wanted to see her later and she would be happy. It was weird to deal with, It could vary. Before I knew she was bi, I didn't notice, just thought she was a little weird.
    bipolar patients should always be on some type of medicine to manage their symptoms. and they need counseling from time to time. don't blame yourself for how he feels or acts because it's never going to be your fault whether he is bipolar or not.
    If it happens that quickly that is kind of hyper-bipolar or something. Usually the swings happen over a couple months period of time or even years. He probably has paperwork, just ask him more about it.
    I dont know that it is a disorder. But i do know that people who are this are very split personality. One minite they can be very pissed and the next like happier then a dog when they get a dog bisket.
    I had a best friend with bipolar -- not anymore though and I'm good with it.

    Here is what they do:

    ';I am so glad you are my friend and let's have some fun -- a LOT of fun and laughter.

    Next day:

    ';I don't need any friends so leave me alone and I need to just die off the planet';

    Next day:

    ';I'm sorry - you know how I get.....';

    Next day:

    People are talking about me and trying to hurt me emotionally - everyone is against me';

    Next day:

    Happy Happy Happy!!

    Next day:

    ';Stop ******* worrying about me and leave me alone';

    Next day:

    ';I'm sorry';

    He's 37 and lives with his parents -- he's a mess and as much as I tried to help him, I got a kick in the *** for it -- it won't happen anymore - he refused medication. Said it made him feel numb...........guess they'd rather feel at least SOME happiness than numb all the time ...that's what HE said.

    I did research and understand that is not always the case though. I was emotionally drained.

    You need to be extremely strong to be in this relationship. I am serious. Good luck!!
    Honestly, the upswings and downswings can last a few days or a few months. I think more often they last a few months. Do you know if he is seeing a doctor? There is really very little that can be done for bipolar disorder without medication. The medication WILL help as long as he takes it as prescribed and doesn't convince himself that he doesn't need it.

    I had a roommate with bipolar disorder, and at the time, all I knew about it was from movies. Most of what they show you on television isn't true. It comes in LONG swings, and can be helped with medicine. Her biggest problem was that she took herself off the medication when she felt that she had recovered. It doesn't work that way. She ended up trying to hurt herself.

    Lastly, It's really great that you're doing research on your own. I'm sure that will help you more than anything and it shows a lot of maturity in your relationship. Kudos.
    I have a famlily member with this disorder as well. It's very difficult to deal with because when you love them soooo much, it's terrible to see what they do. When someone has Bipolar disease, their moods change dramatically. Not necessarily in two or three days but in even a day. They don't have emotions sometimes, and they tend to be lonely and anti-social. Drugs is very common in people with Bipolar disease because they are so depressed that they do it because they feel it will make them feel better. BUT, YOU MUST WATCH OUT FOR THIS: PEOPLE WITH BIPOLAR TEND TO HAVE THE FEELING OF COMMITTING SUICIDE. 25-50% OF PEOPLE WITH BIPOLAR DISEASE HAVE A CHANCE OR DID COMMIT SUICIDE. Bipolar disease is also confused with A.D.D because the symptoms of Bipolar disease and A.D.D are almost the same. So, you should ask your doctor to diagnose your boyfriend. I will pray for him just as much as I pray for the one in my family who has it.
    That sounds about right - a few days is how I cycle I guess. Or more. Is he getting medication for this? He probably should talk to his doctor if he is. His meds may need changed if he is depressed for too long - like more than a few days. BUT if you talk to him about it - do it very nicely and expect a possible out burst. Don't always be suggesting it's just his disorder or med imbalance!
    You sound like a really smart girl to be thinking about all of this stuff. Good for you! You are doing the right thing by finding out every thing you can before it gets serious.

    First, you are on the right track in your thinking. People like to say they are bipolar now days to make excuses for lots of things. They will also tell you that they are OCD or Manic/Depressive. This is a great way to get attention and be forgiven. Make sure he has actually been diagnosed.

    It is very important that if your BF is BP he see a doctor regularly and take medication. That is really the only way he will be able to lead a healthy life and have a solid relationship with a another person (you).

    Be very careful sweetie as BP patients often use every excuse possible to not get help. It is an unfortunate and sad symptom of their problem. It is also common for them to change or discontinue their meds - which of course changes the mood they are in..

    Please make sure you totally love this guy and are completely prepared for a roller coaster relationship before you or he gets too involved. It's only fair to both of you that the groundwork is set up front.

    It's such a shame when a person has this disorder, but it can be controlled and with lots of love and support from friends the person can live a stable lifestyle. The problems occur when someone comes into the relationship unprepared.

    Peace and blessings to you and your troubled boyfriend.
    First, there are two diff levels of bipolar (1 and 2). I am Bipolar 1 rapid cyclying with mixed episodes. With each person it differs. I can be depressed and then a manic spell will break out for a few days, then I will get raged about something and go back to depressed for a few days. So, watch his pattern, I guarantee he has a pattern. Then you will know when he is coming down and when he is about to explode.
    I'm Wakster's partner, and am a registered mental health nurse. In my experience of nursing people with this condition, there is no set time for ';high'; or ';low'; moods. However, returning to ';normal'; within a few days is most unusual! Usually the individual is either extremely low in mood - very depressed showing no motivation and very negative. Or totally opposite - very high in mood, e.g.dresses bizarrely, has ideas of grandeur, may spend money excessively....etc. With this condition it is hard to stabilise the individual's mood, and like with several mental disorders the individual is not complient with medication. He will also have been seen by a psychiatrist who would have diagnosed him with this condition. email me if you need any further information.
    Think long and hard about continuing this relationship. Please.

    Sometimes moods swing within a day. Sometimes it is a few days to a week or so. Sometimes, moods can last months.

    My father and my sister have been diagnosed with bipolar. And I think my x is, but there is not an official diagnosis.

    Growing up with a father that was so unpredictable was awful. My dad was a good provider. But sometimes bipolar affects a person's ability to work, not in my dad's case. But I remember him taking off work for weeks at a time when he was depressed; some jobs wouldn't let you do that. You never knew what was going to make him mad - sometimes things that should have brought about no reaction in a normal person. Even though I respect my dad, I still to this day do not like him.

    My mother has had a terrible life dealing with his moods, anger, or lack of emotion toward her. I would never trade lives with her. I could say things about her life that were good because of my dad - he was a good provider, she was able to be a stay at home mom, she got lots of gifts - expensive jewlrey, etc. But with all that, I would never accept those things to be with a person who you can't be yourself around and have to walk on eggshells. And who doesn't consistently have the ablity to treat you with respect. My dad isn't always awful, but like they say, it only takes a little bit of poison to ruin the pot.

    I grew up and married an abusive man. Like I said, I am pretty sure he suffers from bipolar too. When I was dating him, I didn't see anything wrong with when he was mean or angry, because that is how my dad had been. When we were dating, he was way better than my dad too in comparison. I ended up in a really bad marriage. After ten years together, he started to act our physically toward me. And we had a child tether. and now I am trying to get custody of our child.

    The legacy of my parents relationship has effected me, my sister, my mom and my son in negative ways.

    On the other hand, my dad would probably be dead if my mom didn't marry him. But with that, it has cost her a lot - her happiness, her health, other things I cannot put into words. She basically gave her life to him and he is still a jerk.

    Good luck. But please think long and hard about taking this relationship further... My advice... run before you are connected to this man in a way that you can't get out of.
    Does he HAVE to show you ';paperwork'; for you to believe he has Bipolar? Do you think he is a compulsive liar and therefore you have to verify everything he says? BTW, compulsive lying is NOT a symptom of Bipolar.

    Bipolar takes its sufferers on an emotional roller coaster. There is no definitive time period for our moods. Oh yeah, our loved ones get to sample the horror second hand but it can still be quite scary for them. My ex use to say how ';scary'; it was. All I could do was respond yeah, but he wasn't experiencing it first hand like I was... I had a front row seat in my own personal roller coaster from hell.

    All I can say is meds do help to stabilize some bipolars. But it is never EASY. If your BF isn't on meds then I would have to say WALK AWAY. Sorry.

    Will birth control change me?

    I just got put on a low dose of birth control to help my periods. I always have cramps and a heavy period so my gyno just gave me it to even things out. But what exactly will it do for me? I know it will make my periods shorter and less painful, but will it affect my hormones? Will my mood change? I'm always a little grumpy and low, but will the pill affect that?

    This probably sounds really strange, but I don't want it to make me all perky because I actually think when I'm low, I am more creative. I write my best poems and I get really inspired by my low emotions. I'm just curious as to what this pill will make me feel like. I'm scared that it will change me or something. I've never been on anything like this and I don't know how it's going to make me feel.

    Am I worrying about this too much?!!Will birth control change me?
    I think you are worrying too much!

    I've been on several different pills to regulate my period. I have noticed with some of them that the mood swings that happen right before my period are much less, but it doesn't impact my moods or how I feel the rest of the month.

    If you don't like how you feel on it, you can always get off it. The hormones would be out of your system in less than a month.